Losing a loved one is never easy.
I have had several loses in my life. If you believe in God, it can make this a lot easier. I have always looked at the positive side of death because I do believe in God. I have come to realize, I am not sad because they have died, I am sad because I will miss them. That sure is selfish of me.
I had to learn to be unselfish, to let them go in peace, to a place far better than where I am. Who am I to cry about their calling to go home? I learned to be happy for them. Yes, I still miss the people that have passed away in my life, but I turned my sadness into happiness for them.
When a person gets a good job and has to move away, we hug, we cry, we say good-bye, and then we seem to go on with our lives. But when someone dies, many seem to sit around and do nothing but cry. Is it because we are selfish, envious, or because we want people to feel sorry for us? I can't answer that question for anybody else. That's a question you would have to ask yourself if you were sitting around crying.
Don't you think the person that has passed away would rather we be happy for them? Do you think they want to feel responsible for someone else's unhappiness?
Accepting Death:When it comes to death, the best thing to do is grieve for our loses and then be happy for the person, let go and enjoy what is left of our own life and those around us.
If you seem to be having a hard time with this, try group sessions. Many hospitals or churches offer these sessions at little or no charge. If it seems things are really bad, do not hesitate to get professional help.